5 Reasons to Be Optimistic About Love in 2014
New Year’s resolutions are so repetitive. Lose weight? Meh. Make more money? I suppose. But wouldn’t it be more fun to focus on something a bit more enjoyable? This year, let’s all resolve to fall—or stay—in love. The universe is clearly on our side. Read on for five reasons to be optimistic about love’s chances in 2014.
1. Online dating is widely accepted.
According to a Pew Research study, Americans are more accepting than ever of online dating, which makes it so much easier to connect with someone in a different profession or geographic area. Further, people have more choices when it comes to which sites to use, with niche services and social media covering just about every interest there is. “You’ve got the those old-fashioned dating sites” says Van Wallach, a writer in Westport, Connecticut, “but also Facebook, Meet-Up, and specialty sites like corpssocial.com for Peace Corps returnees and others as ways to be introduced to people without the stresses of straight-up dating connections. Explore your interests, get out of the house, make a difference, be open to possibilities, and be true to yourself.”
2. Marriage equality has now passed in 17 states.
The tide has turned in the battle for marriage equality, and those who stand in its way are on the wrong side of history. With President Obama’s call for legal same-sex marriage last year, it seems only a matter of time before all Americans can enjoy equality on this issue. Policy experts predict that by the end of 2014, 22 states will issue same-gender marriage licenses.
3. Divorce rates in the U.S. are declining.
People are becoming more careful about whom they choose to marry, often living together first and waiting until a later age to tie the knot for the first time. The upshot of all this caution? Divorce rates are declining. Further, the more education you have, the less likely you are to get a divorce.
4. The economy is improving.
“Although the economy hasn’t fully turned the corner yet, I do feel that many Americans are feeling a bit more confident about it,” says David Bakke, a writer for MoneyCrashers.com. “That means they’ll be more likely to get out and about in 2014, and therefore your chances of finding true love will improve.” Relationship expert April Masini agrees that things are looking up out there: “Optimism is the new black. Negativity is frowned on, and irony is not very hip. Society is embracing hope and happiness and health — and that means a much more conducive environment to finding love.”
5. The stars are aligning for love.
“When the Year of the Horse enters at the beginning of 2014, the ‘love star’ moves into the ‘heart palace’—the center of the home,” says feng shui columnist Kathryn Weber. “In the year coming up, love is huge. The love star makes couples more romantic and helps revive relationships. For singles, the love star makes singles more likely to find love—or commit. I am predicting a big surge in the wedding business in 2014.” Lia Parisyan, a Manhattan restaurant reviewer, suggests a good plan for the energetic new year: “The message to take away is, the farther away you move from the beaten path, the better. Energy is high, and the decision to act will be rewarded with success, so in terms of relationships that translates to casting fear aside, taking risks, and putting yourself out there.”